This is a story about resilience and what it means to be resilient. It’s a bit about how we, as humans are uniquely equipped to handle constant change and surprises if we’re given the right support. It’s a story about how crafting systems in our likeness is both inevitable and desirable. It’s about how our capacity to adapt to changes or respond to incidents is dependent on our ability to interconnect with and rely on each other. Drawing from my experience with Resilience Engineering, community building and gender transition, this talk will show how strong communities and building power at the sharp ends of our systems gives us the resilience to thrive during change. It aims to offer lessons and insights into how we can build and operate safer, more reliable socio-technical systems for the machines, but more importantly for the people involved in them.